I love the way you are possessive about me.
You let me be me, and what I feel comfortable with.
Clothes don’t make me, me. But the freedom to choose does.
And I choose. Half a shoulder showing here, half my legs free in the Bombay sun.
And your smile of wonder. The wonder of us.
I love the way you are possessive about me
Not asking me to conform.
Or behave in a particular way when I am in public
Or talk to men differently from women or other genders
When I express myself publicly,
You stand like a rock right next to me
I love the way you are possessive about me.
Your possessiveness surfaces in endearing ways
Saving that mineral bottle for me so no one takes it
Ensuring I take my supplements in the evenings,
So with my autoimmune condition, my immunity is good.
Playing our favourite music when we go for a drive
So my heart sings our unique song
I love the way you are possessive about me.
Because you show it with love
Not with restriction, control or ego.
Possessiveness is love, not control
Those who try to control our behaviour
Feel traumatised when they have no control
Feel incomplete without the power to control others
They may need treatment
Like we all do
When the body gets sick, we go to a doctor
There is treatment
When the mind gets sick too
As for us
I love the way you are possessive about me.
In booking my favourite place
And asking the restaurant to help with my food restrictions
While conspiring with the DJ so he can play my favourite song
Possessiveness is love, not control
So let go. Live, and let live.
Penned down after Deepika Padukone was trolled for Pathan. It’s sad that the feeling of control and importance of the conscience keepers of our country comes from a professional actor just doing her role.
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