Motherhood, often described as a divine journey, paints a picturesque image of bliss, joy, and serene moments. While cradling my own daughter, lost in the depth of her eyes, I felt an overwhelming sense of love. But what many don’t talk about, especially in our Indian context, is the shadow that sometimes looms silently behind this bright canvas—the shadow of postpartum depression.
India, with its rich tapestry of culture, heritage, and values, has always held motherhood in high esteem. A mother is expected to embody patience, love, and sacrifice. But in these heavy expectations, there’s a subtle whisper that often goes unheard. A whisper of fatigue, anxiety, and sometimes despair.
Postpartum depression isn’t just the ‘baby blues’. It’s not just a fleeting phase of mood swings or exhaustion that disappears with a good nap. It’s a persistent feeling of sadness, a lingering weight that you can’t shake off even as you cuddle your bundle of joy. And the irony? Many moms, amidst the societal pressure to be the epitome of perfection, suffer silently, brushing off their emotions as mere ‘tiredness’ or ‘overthinking’.
Society plays a significant role in this silent suffering. The traditional Indian outlook has always leaned towards the idea that a mother’s role is almost sacred, with no room for vulnerabilities. While the global narrative around mental health has taken a positive turn, in many Indian households, admitting to feelings of sadness or anxiety post-childbirth might be met with disbelief or even scorn.
But here’s what’s changing, and perhaps it’s the silver lining we need. Modern-day India is at the intersection of tradition and evolution. While our roots remain firm, our branches are reaching out, embracing change. Today’s Indian mothers are more informed, more connected, and have more resources than ever before. Yet, the battle with PPD remains, primarily because the first step, acceptance, is the hardest.
My closest friend, once whispered to me during a late-night call, “I feel lost. Like I’m drowning. And the worst part? I feel guilty for feeling this way.” She wasn’t alone. Many mothers grapple with these emotions, and the lack of a solid support system makes the journey even more arduous. It’s crucial for families to be not just supportive but informed. Understanding that postpartum depression isn’t a ‘choice’ or a ‘phase’, but a genuine mental health issue, can make all the difference.
Thankfully, the winds of change are blowing. More and more Indian celebrities, influencers, and public figures are opening up about their own battles, shedding light on this critical issue. Their stories resonate with thousands, normalizing the conversation around PPD and making it less of a taboo. Grassroots initiatives, helplines, community programs, and online forums have sprung up, offering a safe haven for mothers to share, learn, and heal.
Yet, awareness is only the first step. Recognizing the signs early on, seeking help, and being proactive about mental health can pave the way for smoother sailing. Prenatal checks often focus primarily on physical health, but isn’t it high time we give mental health equal importance? Regular checks, counseling sessions, and even group therapy can help mothers navigate this complex maze of emotions.
To every Indian mom reading this, know that your feelings are valid. Your journey, with its ups and downs, paints a story that’s uniquely yours. To families and friends, I urge you: listen, support, and be there. A kind word, a listening ear, or just a comforting hug can make a world of difference.
In conclusion, it’s time for us, as a society, to embrace, understand, and act. Let’s rewrite the narrative of motherhood in India, not by painting over the cracks but by acknowledging and healing them. Remember, it’s okay to seek help, it’s okay to lean on someone, and most importantly, it’s okay not to be okay. Every mother, in her own right, is a beacon of strength, resilience, and love. And with the right support, she can shine even brighter.